Category: Perspective Shift Stories

An amazing Origin Story: Vivienne, Audrey and Make a Stand Lemon-aid

make a stand2Get ready for a great example of an Origin Story.

This is one of the most important stories to have in your storytelling quiver, especially if you are a solopreneur with a big message. It’s also important for leaders of organizations to have both their personal Origin Story and an organizational Origin Story (like Ari Weinzweig of Zingerman’s does).

This story is also a great example of a story that can be used to challenge someone’s self-limiting belief about being “too small” to make a difference in this big, complex world.

So, here’s what happened…

While walking around the exhibitor area of the Wisdom 2.0 conference in San Francisco recently, I stumbled upon a sight I had never encountered at a conference: a brightly colored lemonade stand.

My gaze also encountered another unfamiliar exhibition hall sight: a princess in a princess gown.

The princess’s name, I discovered, was Vivienne Harr. With her was Tony Daniel, a big magnetically cheerful guy. I soon learned that Tony was the dad of Vivienne’s co-founder, Audrey Daniel.

I asked him about the story of Make a Stand Lemon-aid.

I was so taken by what he shared, I asked him and Vivienne if I could do a recording of them telling their story.

After you watch the video, I’ll share with you some thoughts about how to use what you saw, heard, and experienced.

 

Here are a few storytelling lessons and applications:

This is a great example of a brief version of an Origin Story.

Notice how Tony was able to capture the origin of Make a Stand Lemonade and the purpose behind it, in about a minute. Whether you present at an event or talk with someone at your vendor booth, you infuse your message with more meaning—and you make it more fascinating—when you describe briefly the story behind why your business exists, the story behind why you do what you do. You also make it easier for people to bond to you when they know your story.

Telling your story begins the Know, Like, Trust process critical to selling your products, services, and ideas.

So…to put this into practice, start working on your Origin Story. For another example of an Origin Story,  you can read mine.

 

This is a great example of a story you can to use to challenge someone’s limiting perspectives, especially the perspective of “I’m too small” or “I’m just a ‘little person’…I can’t make a difference in this big, complex world.”

The Make a Stand Lemon-aid story is a great example of what I call a Perspective Shift story, which is one of the most powerful story genres you can use when coaching or mentoring someone.

With Perspective Shift stories, rather than simply challenging someone’s limiting belief or perspective—which only triggers resistance and defensiveness—you can instead tell them a story that offers a different perspective. I especially like Vivienne and the Make a Stand folk’s story because it is both sweet and charming and…incredibly inspiring.

Think about it, how can you convince yourself you can’t make a difference in the world as an adult, when you hear how two adorable little girls have already made a difference and they’re not even teenagers.

It kind of takes away our excuses.

So how can you apply this in your work? Start noticing and collecting stories of “average” people making a difference, “regular” people doing big things.

Then, when you’re working with someone who believes they are too “small” (or old, or not well educated enough, etc) to make a difference, share with them one or more of these stories.

Doing so can help shift their emotional state and perspective from “I can’t” to “I can.”

If you work inside an organization and your work involves cultivating employee engagement, notice the question I asked Vivienne.

Even though Vivienne’s story is not an example of a story you would use to foster employee engagement, the question I asked her should be included in the stories you use to show employees how the work they do makes a difference.

You want to ask the story teller “How did that make you feel?” along with “What did that mean to you?” for key Moments of Truth in the experience they’re telling you about. Doing this guides the speaker to share at a more personal, intimate level. This helps the listener bond with the speaker.

It helps them form an empathetic connection with the speaker, because they are hearing about the speaker’s inner world. Although Vivienne’s story is not an example of a customer story, asking the question I asked her, along with “What did that mean to you?” question, makes customer stories more meaningful to employees. Haring how customers felt when an employee did X or because the company did Y, and hearing what it meant to the customer, helps employees understand the impact of their work at a deeper, more emotional, more visceral level. Hearing about the impact their work makes helps infuse employees’ work with greater meaning and purpose, which is a fundamental driver of employee motivation.

Research by Dr. Adam Grant, of Wharton Business School has shown that when employees are directly exposed to customer stories about the difference their work makes, it translates into major increases in productivity. In fact, in one research study, exposing employees to a five minute customer story resulted in a 400% increase in revenues generated.

So…if you don’t have one, get crackin’ on that Origin Story.

You can learn  more about the Make a Stand story and the good they doing at their site.

Here’s their video:

Make a Stand Lemon-aid: “Hope in a Bottle” from Vivienne Harr on Vimeo.

How to use a story to impact at the visceral level, rather than just at the intellectual…

David-HeadShotFun-219x300I just heard a great example of someone turning a truism one might know intellectually into something that hits you at the visceral level, by using a story.

I was re-listening to David Neagle’s teleseminar series The Miracle of Money (which is outstanding, BTW…I think it’s something we should teach in our schools) and came upon this story from the bible he tells to illustrate a point.

Basically, he was talking about how you can’t just affirm into existence what you want–a la The Secret–and hope for a miracle. But, that you must engage in what he calls “miracle making activities”. He talks about how when we try to affirm things like “I am in great shape” or “My business is growing” but do nothing to make those happen, our subconscious mind is thinking “That’s BS…you don’t mean it and you don’t believe it.”

While you might think this is common sense:

1. There are a lot of people who believe that simply affirming things over and over will miraculously make them happen.

2. There are a lot of people who live their lives acting as if, without action, good things will happen.

To be honest, I’ve done #2 more times than I would like to admit, so I felt somewhat “busted” as he talked about this.

But, I found the way he framed it in a biblical story especially powerful.

As I heard the story again, it hit home at a deeper level and…made me think “I want to share this with my storytelling folks as a great example of how to use a story to make your idea, which could easily be taken as nothing new and common sense, and make it come alive…and make it hit at a visceral level…not just an intellectual level.”

Listen to the story and notice the  power it adds to the concept.

Then think about concepts you want to teach and how you can use stories like this to make them “stickier” (as in Made to Stick by Chip and Dan Heath)

You can literally listen to the audio excerpt at the bottom of this post, or…read it:

The other story is one that comes out of Christian scripture. It‘s where Christ was in a home. It says he was teaching to the family in this home, and the multitude was out around the home.

What‘s the multitude? According to the Bible, the multitude was hundreds or thousands of people. They gathered around the home in hopes of many different things. Some wanted teaching from Christ. Some wanted healing from Christ. They all wanted to get something from him, so they were standing outside the home waiting in hopes that they might get something from him.

There was a family that lived a few miles away. The family had a dying father, and they had gotten word that Christ was teaching in this home just a few miles away.

They put the father in a cart and carted over to the home. When they got there, they can‘t get to the door because the multitude was standing all around the house.

What they did was said, ―Father will have his healing.

They climbed up and hoisted the father onto the roof of the home. They ripped off the top of the roof and lowered the father down in front of Christ to get the healing. The father was healed.

For everybody else on the outside around the home, if you were ask if they wanted their healing, would say, ―Yes, please,‖ but they just stood there. The person who really wanted it spent their time in miracle-generating activities. They would not be denied success in the healing of the father, so they found a way where there was no way.

They could have got there and said, ―We can‘t get through these thousands of people. He‘s busy. Maybe we‘d be disturbing him.‖ Some of you are afraid to make phone calls and call people because you‘re disturbing people.

In the Christian religion, Christ is the son of God, and these people had no problem bothering the son of God or ripping off the roof of the house to lower him to the son of God. They weren‘t afraid to be ashamed, embarrassed or told no.

They said, ―We will have our healing. We will have our abundance. We‘re not going to be weak of heart and mind. We‘re not going to be distracted by all the people who don‘t have the confidence to go in and ask for and demand what they want. We will have it.‖ Christ granted their request.

Christ‘s story is very interesting. If you look throughout the Bible, you realize there were only a few people Christ actually healed. At some point, you have to ask yourself why. If Christ had the power to heal all of humanity, why did he come here and just heal a few?

You don‘t find him healing anybody who didn‘t go through great pains in order to ask him to heal. That‘s the difference between really desiring what you want and just slightly wanting it because you don‘t like what your situation is presenting.

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For more of David Neagle’s work, go to DavidNeagle.com.

 

Focus is the # 1 Thing…except when it’s not: Perspective Shift with Twitter founder Evan William

EvanI just came across a great example of a “Perspective Shift Story” in an article by Evan Williams in the February issue of Inc. magazine.

While the content of the perspective shift is interesting to me–as someone with multiple interests and finding it hard to choose just one–it’s the structure I want US to focus on.

Most of the article was about the importance of focusing. He gives the example of an earlier company he started, Odeo, that failed because they tried to be “the podcasting company” rather than focus on one product and do it better than anyone else.

They didn’t focus, though on one thing, they  instead tried to be all things podcast.

Then came iTunes.

Need I say more?

So…the whole article is about focus until…he get’s to this point:

The irony, of course, is that both Blogger and Twitter started as side projects. If I had been absolutely focused on the main project, they might never have happened. So, there is something to be said for knowing when you’re locked in to the right problem.

Fortunately to those struggling with the “do I get  narrow or stay multidimensional?” issue, he offers some advice:

To me, that comes down to the gut. The things that keep nagging at you are the ones worth exploring.

Again…forget the content for a moment and think of the structure:

1. Idea A is the way to go

2. Beaucoup evidence backing that assertion up.

3. Idea B which totally contradicts Idea A is presented with extremely compelling evidence to back IT up.

4. Invitation to practice discernment and…not buy into every “great” idea an “expert” states as a truth.

So how and when to use this?

1. When you want someone to break free from a “there’s only one right way…tell it to me” mentality
2. When you want to help someone breakout of their own “this is the right way” mentality and see that their way could be right and…there could be equally valid approaches and perspectives.

 

Discovering What’s Right: The story of Ricochet the SURfice Dog

The  story of Ricochet who failed as a service dog is heart warming  and is worth watching for that reason alone.

If we use it as a teaching story–for ourselves and others–it also holds helpful reminders for anyone dealing with any of the following:

  1. You feel challenged by someone’s shortcomings and can’t seem to see their talents, gifts, and “good side”.
  2. You are on the receiving end of the above.
  3. You’ve been trying to force yourself to fit into a job, career, or life, and it doesn’t seem to work for you, and you wonder what’s wrong with you.

 

 

A Reframe Story About Compassion

Reframe Stories

Reframe Stories are a version of Perspective Change stories. By sharing an example of how a situation you saw in one way could be looked at in a totally different way–i.e. the story reframes the problem or issue–you stimulate the other person to do the same.

Before The Story…Think About  This…

Before I tell you this story, I’d like to ask you to think of someone you have strong judgment towards…especially someone who you perceive as mean or antagonistic. Notice what you tell yourself about them and the judgments you have.

 

“What a cold, hard person!”

OK…now…here’s the story….

While cross country skiing on a snowmobile trail, I was passed by two snowmobiles roaring by. A little distance farther, I came upon the same two men. One sat on his snowmobiles, while the other stood. The one standing was facing in my direction as he talked. The one on the snowmobile facing away from me. As I got closer, I looked at the one facing me, attempting to make eye contact and say “Hi”.

He acted like I wasn’t there. Besides his lack of friendliness—not an uncommon phenomenon in New England—I was struck by the cold, hard set to his face. It was almost menacing.

A Whole New Way of Looking at Him

The following summer, I was walking in the grocery store with my friend Dr. Bonnie Vestal, a medical counselor from Boise, and spotted this man.

“Hey, you see that guy there,” I whispered, “What’s your take on him?” I asked.

She’s one of those people whose impressions and perspectives I frequently seek out, both because of her wisdom and her ability to “see into” others and pick up on their essence, despite the persona they project to the world.

“He looks like someone who was hit in the face as a child,” she said, in a soft, compassionate voice.

Suddenly my judgment toward this man and primal discomfort shifted to one of compassion. Instead of this cold, hard, mean-looking guy, I could see a hurt child who had spent his life trying to protect himself from being hurt.

That’s the power of a reframe.

Back to YOUR person…

As you think of them, see if you can see who they were as a child or, if it’s easier, see if you can imagine what their private life is like—both their internal world and their life outside of their public interactions of work, church, or wherever you encounter them.

How does this perspective help you see them in a new light?

_________

Storytelling Note

The “Before the story, think about this.” section of the story is a direct way to stimulate the reader or listener of your story to think about their own example of the experience you are about to describe. It’s what I call “Linking Phrases” because it helps them link past and future experiences with the particular perspective or emotion that your story is designed to evoke. This increases the odds that your story will help them in the situations (or memories) that they most need to be helped.

Also, because you ask them to think about their own example of the challenging situation, it increases their interest level in your story. As they recall their own version of the problem or challenge, it activates their desire to learn how to deal with it more effectively.

You might notice in my videos, or if you’ve seen me live, that I will sometimes stop in the middle of a story and say something like “Maybe you can think of your own experience where you…” Those are examples of using Linking Phrases to increase the person’s connection–both consciously and unconsciously–with the story. I believe it’s especially helpful for the  more concrete people in the audience who might be thinking “Why’s he telling me this story about himself?”

By asking them to think of their own exmaples, it helps them focus on what they care about: their own problems, challenges, and life.

 

This tough time is just a chapter…not the whole story

Hey…I just posted on my WhateverLifeBrings.com blog about looking at tough times with a different perspective. It came out of my recent experiences volunteering at an animal shelter, walking and running the dogs, and feeling sad for the dogs who looked so lost and bereft, but then coming back the following week and seeing they had been adopted.

It’s an example of having a simple everyday life experience and using it as an analogy or a metaphor for a bigger truth about life.

If you want to read it, both for the content and to see another example of thinking in terms of analogies and metaphors–i.e. “Hmmm…what is this experience like?” go to This Tough Time is Just a Chapter…It’s Not the Whole Story

 

Also…if you want information on the upcoming August webinar (will be recorded) about how to “Wrap Your Message in Bacon“, check that out.

Use “I didn’t think I could…but I did!” stories to shift people from “I can’t” to “I can”

When You Need to Help Someone Shift Into an Empowered “Can Do” State

Ever work with someone who is stuck in the “There’s no way I can…” mode?

Or…they feel so helpless and hopeless, they can’t see any options or opportunities?

Or, maybe you’ve had the experience of working with a group, trying to teach them how to handle a challenging situation–such as having difficult conversations or picking up the phone and calling prospects–and when you look out at the group, you can see they totally don’t believe they’re going to be able to learn the skill?

Well then…

…bring on the “I didn’t think I could…but I did!” story

…and let the empowerment begin :-).

Shifting people’s emotional state and perspective are one of the many ways stories add tremendous power to your change catalyst repertoire.

 

Here’s an 8 minute clip that demonstrates and explains how to use this type of story to:

  1. Shift the listener (or group of listeners) from an “I can’t” mindset to an “I can.”
  2. Shift the energy of the listener–or group–from one that is flat or disempowered and helpless to one that is energized and empowered

 

 
 
 
To learn more about using storytelling to shift people from “I can’t…” to “I can…” and, how to “wrap your message in bacon” using stories, go to this post and find out about the upcoming webinar on August 28th.

Also…please post questions and comments below.